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Published : August 02, 2009 |
Author : L. Elizabeth Krueger
Category : J. Training, Correction, and Discipline | Total Views
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 L. Elizabeth Krueger
I am a full time mom of ten (so far) and author of Raising Godly Tomatoes: Loving Parenting with Only Occasional Trips to the Woodshed
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OKAY, ABOUT BLANKET TRAINING...
Quite a few people who post to
my message board and have read my book “Raising Godly Tomatoes” seem to
think that I teach something called “blanket training”. Hmmm, do I? I
do mention “blankets” and “training” and I think I did use it as an
example, "training a child to stay on a blanket”, but no, I’m sure I
don’t teach “blanket training” (as in giving repeated lessons to very
small children on how to stay on a blanket, so that mom can transport
the blanket around and use it as a sort of virtual play pen).
I
have no objection to an instruction like "stay on this blanket" or "sit
next to me on this blanket". And I have no objection to using that
situation to teach a child to obey me. As long as the focus is on
obeying Mom, not on "what to do when you are on a blanket", then I'm
fine with it.
I guess what I object to – the bigger picture -
is training for specific tasks (any specific task) as opposed to just
training your child to respect your words and do as you say (no matter
what the task).
I did require some of my children to stay on a
blanket a number of times when they were very little (crawlers). I
remember using one outside when I didn't want my baby to be crawling on
the grass or sand. I remember using one inside a few times when I was
at someone's house who had really dirty carpet and I didn't want my
clean baby getting all dirty and putting who-knows-what in his mouth.
But I never made any special effort to "blanket train".
Instead,
what I did was to use whatever opportunities naturally arose at any
time with any issue, to teach my children to obey me. I didn’t focus on
this task or that task, but whenever I wanted them to do or not do
something, I just told them, explained or demonstrated if they didn’t
understand, then made sure they obeyed. So, when I wanted my child to
stay on a blanket, I just put the blanket down, told him to stay on it,
taught him what I meant if he didn’t understand, then I made sure he
did it (obeyed). I never set up any special “blanket training
sessions”. I never expected them to automatically stay on a blanket
just because I put one on the floor. I didn’t teach my children to stay
on a blanket, I taught them to obey me, and then of course, they’d stay
on a blanket if I wanted them to.
So, it is the “focus” that
to me seems "off" when you say you "blanket train". I believe it’s
better to train your child to "obey", so you can apply that to all
tasks, rather than training for each individual task, as is the usual
approach in “blanket training”. |
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