What sort of "no-nonsense" matters should you consider? Here are my suggestions:

• Keep in mind that your goal is not to be considered "cool" by kids, but to "Be The Parent". You have great influence over your children and when you do your job as the parent you gain your child's respect.

• Allow your kids to have some degree of privacy, but if you suspect any dangerous behavior, it is your responsibility to investigate. Let your teenager know that there will be a no-nonsense invasion of privacy if you deem it necessary. Be certain that your motives are pure.

• Encourage your teen to spend time in "family areas" of the home by locating computers, TVs and video games in those rooms. This will remove the temptation that can be found in these mediums.

• Take responsibility to teach your kids proper behavior. That includes areas of morality and general kind and considerate behavior. Teach them what the word of God says is appropriate behavior. Once again it's important to model the kind of behavior you hope to see your children.

• Exercise your right and responsibility to inquire about anyone who has become a part of your teenager's life. It IS your business. If there is a problem in your child's judgment, feel free to overrule him.

• Your son (or daughter) does not "have to" attend a social event you deem questionable. Consider your child's maturity level and the type of event he (or she) is wanting to attend.

• This sounds funny to say, but do not be afraid of your teenager. Again, you need to "Be The Parent." Your kids do not have the experience necessary to make all of their own decisions. Know what God's word has to say and draw upon your gained wisdom and experience.